“Don’t Wish it Were Easier. Wish You Were Better.”
Why I Coach
Henry David Thoreau wrote in Walden, “The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.” This silent suffering inevitably leads to mental and physical illness. If extreme enough, anxiety, depression and all too often suicide. If not suicide then premature death from the physical diseases that manifest from the denial. I find this tragic and have sadly witnessed the demise of many during my career.
As a physician I used to become frustrated because I could not help a person get to the root cause of their medical problem. Coaching helps the individual discover the source, gain insight, deal with the problem, grow and move forward. I coach because it is the single most effective way to help a person get what they want, transform their life, break free and express themselves authentically to the world. Witnessing someone evolve into a healthier, happier and more effective human being that positively influences the lives of others gives my life meaning.
I’m not hear to tell you what to do. I’m here to help you not silently take your exceptional talents and gifts prematurely to the grave. It’s my life’s mission to raise awareness so others can awaken to be their most authentic an optimal self. Who are you? Why are you here? What do you want? What do you care about? What are you afraid of – what keeps you up at night? Who or what is offended you? What are your goals? Are you living your dreams or someone else’s? What are you putting with? What is blocking you and getting in your way? I’m here to ask the tough questions to broaden your perspective and be curious about what other possibilities exist for you. I’m here to hold a sacred space, a vision, so you can be still and find your answers.
What is Coaching?
In the last few decades Coaching has emerged globally into the mainstream to serve the personal and organizational quest for excellence. Coaching is an integration of multiple disciplines including: personal development, sports, eastern and western spiritual philosophies, counseling, mentoring, management, consulting, language, communication arts, career development and much more. Coaching continues to evolve and improve on helping people and organizations face the challenges of an accelerating world. Scientifically, there is no better model to empower personal or organizational change than Coaching.
Coaching defined: Coaching is a partnering and catalyzing relationship that accelerates great performance and achievement. It’s about identifying purpose and living that purpose. It’s about compassionately helping you get what you want by applying collective wisdom and supportive proven methods.
You might want a coach to:
Achieve sustainable weight loss
Gain clarity on your life’s purpose
Reduce Stress, Overwhelm & Simplify
Balance work, health, family life, personal interests and be more productive
Increase financial health
Experience greater energy and vitality
Get ahead professionally
Improve Leadership Skills
Decrease leadership stress and have clarity on an organization’s vision
Set Better Goals
Reach Goals Faster
Save Time & Money
Sleep better at night
Have more fun in one’s life
Make Better Decisions
Have a collaborative partner
My coaching combines an established proven approach with more than a quarter century of experience as a medical doctor. I have seen and experienced the spectrum of the human condition. There will be no surprises.
We are all developing as we move through life. Our experiences and problems provide us with learning opportunities and growth but sometimes we get stuck or spin in place. Here are a few ways that my coaching can help you break free:
Identify the Gaps
Getting to know you and listening beyond your words helps me to ask powerful thought provoking questions that re-frame the gaps in your thinking and identify limiting beliefs. These gaps are then filled in with new insights and awareness. New tools and resources are also brought to bear to move forward. This is where the “Ah ha” moments occur and you discover a new path.
I’m a partner not a parent. I’ll ask you up front what form of accountability works best for you. I’ll support and challenge you to reach your highest potential. I’ll help you create a strategic plan, make sure you have a solid structure in place to reach your specific goals. If you miss the mark, with kindness I will hold your feet to the fire so you may achieve what you want.
Hiring a coach is an act of courage. It’s putting down the self help books, tuning out the noise of family and friends, choosing not to tolerate underachievement anymore and teaming with an expert that is unbiased. An expert that empowers you to discover your own answers without giving you reams of advice and counseling. We will win early and keep winning. With victory comes increased confidence. Your confidence will grow and strengthen your commitment – accelerating your progress.
It takes humility and courage to open ourselves to help. To put the self reliant ego aside and connect with another human who will help us put the good hurt on ourselves so we may grow. Like a muscle that is stretched and pushed you will become stronger, wiser and more flexible. My coaching will help you measure your progress with tangible results. I will help you invigorate your passion and creativity so you can go further than you ever imagined. You will “hurt” but you will be thankful for it and reap the benefits.
We make this journey as partners. Along the way we quickly build a foundation for a better life. We explore your vision, remove barriers, play to your strengths, broaden your choices and make better decisions. You will learn to develop habits that serve you. We have fun, celebrate the breakthroughs and remove obstacles that have held you back.
What I Want for You…
Our capacity, potential and meaning are far deeper than we can imagine. They are oceanic. I believe in your ability to discover your own voice, find your purpose and express it in the most authentic way. You must look inward and be honest with yourself. There is no short cut. Who you are and what you care about must be acknowledged and fought for. You must nurture and foster the seed of self discovery and wonder so you can grow past what has been preventing you from moving forward.
No matter how much self reliance and toughness has worked for you in the past, this process does not lend itself to that strategy. To echo the famous English poet John Donne, “No man is an island…send not to know for whom the bell tolls. It tolls for thee.” It’s okay to have the humility to raise your hand and ask for help – it’s the healthiest thing we can do. We all have cracks in our armor…it’s how the light gets in.
What I want for you is to have the courage to trust yourself and take action. To find your life purpose and calling so you may experience the healthiest and most meaningful life possible. You are much more than you have ever imagined.
Warm and compassionate regards,
D Reed Miloy MD
To experience a free meet and greet contact me at 830 895-5599 or firstname.lastname@example.org and my staff or I will promptly respond.
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.“